There’s a big 3 that kills relationships, whether that be with friends, staff, partners... it’s all the same.
The first of which is COMMUNICATION.
The goal of communication is not to simply speak and it’s certainly not to win.
The goal is to find a place of mutual understanding.
That means you need to develop the art of accurate communication 🏹. So often we blame the other party for being poor listeners, getting distracted or lacking engagement.
The reality is YOUR probably lacking the skill of accuracy.
Here’s 12 questions to ask yourself in order to highlight your gaps and improve as a communicator. (Especially with your partner)
1) Is what I said what I meant?
2) Is what I meant what I said?
3) Was what they heard what I’d hoped?
4) Did the tone and delivery match the content?
5) Was the environment appropriate?
6) Was the timing appropriate?
7) Did I check for understanding?
8) Did I confirm engagement before commencing?
9) Did I express emotion or promote an outcome?
10) Was I willing to listen to their response?
11) Did I use my preferred method of communication or appeal to theirs?
12) Did we find a mutual understanding and if not, what will I do differently?
Ask a friend why they broke up and they’ll so often say communication!
Ask a disgruntled staff member why they left... yep, you guessed it Communication.
It’s one of three things worth improving that will have an impact on every area of your life.
If you want to know the other two let me know ... or I can just keep them to myself...
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